how to stay in love with a bipolar person

my girlfriend has bipolar we meet 3 months ago and feel in love she told me she has this problem she had her first out break just latly, she seemed like a diffrent person she didnt want me around when we were together she was always looking to get away from me,she says she loves me but she doesnt seem the same. i was just wondering is this a normal thing with a person with bipolar ?

It's fairly normal. Give them some space when they get like that and make sure you are there with open arms when that mood changes. It's not easy for either people in the relationship.

Your baby will experience severe mania and then depression... It's a tidal wave, but you'll learn about it just being with her.... Always be sure to console her, make her feel loved... when she is depressed... and when she's manic? Make sure she doesn't over spend...

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My girlfriend hasn't been diagnosed yet but we are pretty sure she is bipolar. I need help nailing down the signs that she is experiencing the onset of an episode. Usually, it starts with her telling me she loves me so much it might be unhealthy. How can I counter this and help her.

yes normal for bipolar. you just have to understand that she has a problem that she is trying to get help for. she may hate you one minute and love you like no tomorrow the next. she might say things that hurt you to push you away, and things you love to hear to bring you back.

it's going to be a rollar coaster ride, but if you love her enough to stick with her, stand by your lady. when you feel like she is dragging you down to the point that you are depressed, you might want to get out of the relation ship. two depressed people don't make a right. she needs you to stay strong so you can help her through if you are willing. don't give up on her.

you need to be warned that this relation ship is not for the faint of heart. you have to be very strong and confident in yourself. when i first met my bipolar girlfriend 7 months ago i was laid back confident and trusting. now after all the hurtful things she has said to me i am always suspicious of her and am not really able to provide her with the patience i used to so we fight all the time. bipolar people are hypocrites unintentionally; they can get mad at you for anything in the world but if you get upset at them youre being "insensitive". the problem is its really hard when i get so much emotional abuse. ny gf has broke up with me 7 times (about once a month) and its always over something ridiculous. she is so lovey dovey one day, telling me she wants to be w me forever and the next day she ignores me, gets irritated at me and says she feels smothered, even tho she demands all of my free time to the point where i cant study or go out with friends for fear of her going crazy on me. i love her more than anyone else in the world, she is so sweet and an amazingly talented artist but at the same time its the hardest most emotionally draining relationship i have ever had. i cant tell you how many times she has made me a total wreck, blubbering adn crying adn feeling horrible when in actuality everything is her fault. but you have to suck it all up. i recommend doing drugs or seeing a therapist if you want to stick it out. when i was on oxycontin all the time i put up with her alot better

Seriously, I have been going out with this girl I feel is my true love, and she says same thing back...We have been together for over a year and during the beginning of the relationship she put me through some severe mental abuse, she always would hold feelings for her ex's. She even after had our baby together suffered through postpartum and made me move out. She still had feeling for her ex. 2 months after that she realizes she truly is in love with me and not him....His penis is small and mine is A LOT bigger....I hope that is not why she sticks with me...I hope its mentally for me. Her mother keeps trying to get them together, keeps inviting him to come over or sleep over. My girl keeps making him sleep on the couch but she wakes up sometimes to him laying right next to her. One night she was having a rough time and he was holding her all night she said. I feel very disrespected.....to the point where none of this will ever be fixed with her ex.....Makes me want to brake up with her, but I am so deeply in love with her. Can I trust her? I feel that I can.....but Bipolar people are confusing I guess.....Are they known as liers? I feel that I know her like the back of my hand.

WOW!!

I must say, that in my experiences with my bipolar gf, I have experienced many of the exact same things! I have been with my girlfriend for a year (this month) and this is definately not a relationship for the weak of heart, or unsure of resolve.

She would have extremes of highs and lows that changed within the blink of an eye!! One moment completely pissed off over some ridiculous thing that I would never understand, and the next she would be completely in love.. The problem was, that after all the fights, after all the hateful things she has said to me, neither do I have the patience that I once had.. By the time she has a lightning quick change from deppression or anger to tha manic side, I am thoroughly pissed off and completely unforgiving, and she just cannot understand why I cannot just be happy with her like she is even when I scream at her that I am NOT bipolar!!!

Don't get me wrong, she always feels sorry for her uncalled for attacks, and I realize it at the time, and know that she doesn't really mean it, or will at least regret it later, but I am beginning to become so tired of the endless battles and my patience wears thin.

She too, is much the hypocrite, screaming and cursing at complete strangers, or worse, close friends (usually mine) for complete, and utter wrongs, that she has herself committed only moments previously or will in moments to come. But when pointed out to her, "It's different." And always will be when it comes to her...

I have lost all but my two closest friends, going from very popular, to feeling sorry for, to "dude, what tha ****?" to "just forget it" as I blew off all my friends and any parties to "spend my time with HER." Because otherwise, she wasn't happy, and I was apparently "cheating on her" just by being around other people, strangely, even guys!!!

My girlfriend, who has had two kids from a previous relationship also talks quite frequently of her Ex's and how she still cares about them (always will) and the only reason for breaking up was for stupid things (though I wonder if they just couldn't stand her anymore...) But then she will turn around and tell me how she loves me so much, and always will, and love no one else!! (though I feel so paranoid as she continues to go to parites all the time, getting drunk with people known to enjoy sex with women in relations, and her best friends she terms herself, are whores. Not to mention that if situations were swapped, and i was partyin while she spent entire day studyin her ass off.......???? Death and destruction would come about!!!) And I am always reminded that I most definately have the biggest dick she has ever seen in her life..... (ironic?)

To say the least, she is confusing as hell, but not without her rewards. I love her deeply, have the greatest sex ever with her, and live to see her smile!! The only reason for my above comments are to warn any who seek a realationship with a bipolar female....
It WILL be DIFFICULT!! And if you donnot go into the relationship expecting all this, and worse, than you go into battle blindfolded and have no chance of survival. Also, only to be fair, you must look at yourself, and ask yourself, "Am i strong enough for this?"

Hope this sheds enlightenment on any decision, and goodluck to all who are in similiar relations!

wow its so nice to see so many other people going through the same thing I am. It sureal how much i can relate to you all!!!

Wow, it really hurts to know so many people right here are experiencing this painful rollercoaster like I have for the past year.
My BP whatever he is right now hasn't taken his meds since 5 days ago & disappeared on a party binge for 49 hours only to return yesterday morning & lay around all day, totally uncaring of my feelings or the damage done. I tried to reach out for help when I saw the signs, but it was late Thursday & the weekend came-everything closed.
I've known him for a few years as a friend, lover & boyfriend. We have a lot in common & get along very well. Like Soulmates.
He made many advances over that time, we kept running into each other, things evolved & now I am totally in love with him. Everyone sees & says how good we are together. He constantly comes back & tells me this one said this or that about us.....Friends, kids etc... have all encouraged us.
I knew something was going on inside him, but wasn't sure what it was. He started to talk to me about it & when he asked for help, I was right there & immediately took him to our local VA hospital.
I have been taking him there for 3 months now, sometimes 3 times a week & I'm very involved in his care. He says I've been there for him 200% & says he never would have followed threw if it wasn't for me.If it wasn't for me he might be dead right now.
He has very little income, barely functional with responsibilities & I have been taking care of him in every way. I wanted to help, but he takes me for granted. It is sometimes a very confusing, hurtful, thankless job & I seem to get the brunt of it all. I have been threw very rough times myself & now I'm feeling very depressed, used & alone in this world & feel like no one is taking care of me. He acts like my boyfriend in many general ways & when he talks, it's us, we & our, one minute he says we are together & the next, he flip flops & pushes me away. He also has built a fatherly type of relationship w/ my 6 yo son. He puts me threw hell with this & I don't want my son to get hurt.We were left suddenly homeless & moved in with him. I didn't have anywhere to go & he needed the help so here we are.
I've been very strong & positive, but I don't have any support, medical insurance, meds to make me feel better, or anyone to turn too.
I'm done being the supporter because I'm an emotional wreck & frankly if he doesn't care back then why should I waste my (& my sons)heart space on him & his problems. I wanted it to work so badly & we will hurt for a long time & miss him, but I'm already packed to move out, just having problems finding a place in this school district.
They (VA) are giving him a complete evaluation -medical & psychiatric. He was diagnosed Bipolar & put on Depakote about 2.5 months ago. I can't tell if the meds are working because he drinks & doesn't take the meds right.

For instance, he still has up & downs, grumpy moods where everything rattles him or stresses him out & emotionally flip flops.He gets close to me, acts affectionate & then runs away & rejects me.
Just last weekend-He said he is with me, acknowledged it all, not going anywhere, loves me, wants me, really likes me, but he doesn't really seem to feel or show it like a normal person does. He can be many ways at the same time like very funny, charming & cool, like he is ok, but then distant, uncaring, mean, threatening, cruel, insensative, cocky, arrogant-he plays games with me whether he means it or not-not everything can be from Bipolar. That is like a trip wire & it's hard to see the line when you are not bipolar.
Today is Tuesday. Friday night he got drunk with his buddies, I had a few beers, but they were mixing. All of a sudden he made a sexual advance to me. I let him know it bothered me because he hasn't shown me any affection in a week or so & has been sleeping on the couch.Then he turned around to me & blurted out in front of his buddies that he loves me, but he isn't in love with me. I got very hurt & upset & felt humiliated etc...
I am very careful of how I say & approach issues with him, when we talk about things, I try to keep it simple & not nag him at all. I can't keep putting my life & feelings on hold & need to be there for my son, but this is all very distracting.
Most of the time, it's ok & he is receptive, but some things he puts up a wall because he emotionally can't deal with them. When he is having a good spell he openly talks more & I seem to be his girlfriend then. He admitted about a month ago that he is now feeling things he put behind him years ago & says that he sees as well as everyone else how good I am for him.He even said he wanted to have a son with me & asked me to have my tubes untied. Before he even spoke to me, he talked with his 2 teenage daughters about it. I am not having anymore children & he is not thinking clearly-why bring a son into the world when his whole life is in shambles & he isn't handling anything.
He is a grown man almost 50 yo.It's time to grow the heck up.I can't make him do anything like stop drinking/etc..., causing problems for himself, using bad judgment, messing his meds up & I can't make him feel in love with me.Everyone says he will probably hit bottom when I move out & realize what he lost, but he doesn't seem to phased right now.Instead he is putting it off on me in his own mind & acts like I did something wrong.
Today he had 3 appts at the VA & they called & said his psychiatrist is out sick, but I secretly took the call & let them know he has other appts & needs to be seen even if he shows up acting fine-he isn't. Somebody needed a heads up & his caregivers need to treat him, but I have to separate from it now-he will be all on his own, no me, no family.
LITERALLY ALONE except for his little dog. He is very close to losing his house, his kids are away on vacation & are getting fed up too, I'm trying to move out. His party friends aren't going to help him. He has no job or license, the phone will be disconnected, his bills probably will go unpaid & I'm no longer stocking the frig for him or flipping the bills for him.
For the first time, I am not taking him to the doctors, but reminded him he had the appts last night. He got up off the couch & took a shower & went to the VA alone w/ his dog even though he lost his drivers license & the cops know his car.I hope he admits everything to them & asks for the help he needs, but I cannot do this anymore.I deserve so much better than this & my son deserves to have his mom & be happy.
Bipolar or not. I can not be played with, abused or taken for granted anymore & I also don't want to enable him either.
Sorry, but now I'm hurting & in need of help & support & guess what-I have none. How are the rest of you feeling, about the same?
Thanks for listening.
K29