Husband addicted to masturbation

Help! He can't have regular sex with me to the point of ejaculation. I like the things we do, but miss regular old down and dirty sexual intercourse. We've been together 7 years, and he's come during intercourse maybe 3 times. He has to masturbate to achieve orgasm. He also watches internet porn and doesn't get turned on unless I'm talking dirty like a porn star or make him jealous by talking about having sex with other men. I just want to have sex with my husband. What do I do???

Why don't you present this to him as a problem and make him realize what's going on with both you and him and tell him that you need different needs and don't want to be a porn star.

Don't play a victim but if he starts acting the same way, why not refrain from sex for some time to see if something comes to his mind???

Just a thought.

try reading a heart restored ro your husband could read every mans battle. hope this helps

honey you need to tell your husband what i told mine. he has a bad porn addiction and hardly ever touched me. he would masturbate to porn 4 to 5 times a week and not touch me. i came home one day and had enough. i had tried talking to him about it before and all he did was ignore me.

i told him i wanted a divorce. he asked me why. i told him that i wanted to be with a real man who could make love to me, who wanted to be with me, who didn't need porn to get turned on by me. To me, porn is crossing the cheating line. so is strip clubs. he may not be touching them but he is watching them do intament things naked and then masturbating thinking about them. that's wrong. if you did what he does, you would NEVER hear the end of it. He thinks because he is a man he can get away with it cause he has needs. So do YOU.

i took my things and left my husband without a tear in my eye. i was too disgusted by his actions with porn to shed a tear. it was hard to stay away and not see him. but what ever i did worked. he left the porn alone and we got back to being us.

YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE TO COMPETE WITH PORN. HE IS YOUR HUSBAND, SHOW HIM THAT WHEN YOU ARE GONE, HE CAN'T HOLD THE COMPUTER AT NIGHT.

all the power to you lady for having the guts and willpower to get up and leave your porn-addicted husband. its makes me extremely angry the way men can treat a woman and be so self-centered with their sexual needs. I am in a similar situation without the porn. my boyfriend (66 yrs old) masturbates each night and when ever he can during the day, and our sex life is the pits. I am twenty years younger than him and can get plenty of action elsewhere, but I am loyal to this 'man'! I've give him oral sex plenty, wear sexy nighties and I told him he can wake me up for sex.....yet each night I notice him feeling himself and coming right there beside me in bed. I find this incredibly rude and shows me he has no respect for me. I've told him to stop but he continues soon afterwards. Wé've had bit fights about it and him breaking down crying, but it all doesnt help. he refuses to go to therapy. I am planning to break up with him as soon as my financial situation allows it, yet I wonder am I being old fashioned and a prude? when I read on masturbating husband it seems to be the most normal thing in the world for these 'men', but I cant help but feel unloved and cheated on and hate the idea of him doing things behind my back. I told him I would also start masturbating and he says thats okay, like he didnt care. great to be able to air out my pent up anger in this letter. all the best to you women out there in similar situations.

well the best answer is to stop his masturbation habit.no problem in talking dirty but tell him that the masturbation is becoming a real problem in ur sex life. talk as much dirty as u like but keep it intimate just between u and him no porn stars no other men nothing of the sort.and if he doesn't listen give him the option of a chastity. just lock his penis and put the keys around in ur neck.if he is kinky most probably he'll agree in a couple of days or weeks. don't let him masturbate and only allow sex 3 times a week. i hope he's not voilent on u because then it'll turn ugly. so do take care of that

I can relate to this topic very much, my BF and i have been together for almost 2 years. He has an addiction to masterbating to porn on the internet and vids on Adult Friend Finder. I stay loyal to him....sometimes I wonder why? Nonetheless i do. My self esteem has plumitted. He masterbates so much it has also caused him to get erectile disfuction, he is moody. He says he masterbates to make himself tied, when he stress, when he's happy, not just because he's horny. He hardly touches me. It's tough because i want to be touched by him. He has started masterbating wheni am sitting on the computer beside him and he wants me to join in. I am not in the least turned on by this because it is such an issue in our relationship. I feel like doesn't get turned on by me. I have people saying to me frequently that im hot, ooze sexuality, blah blah. What matters is i want my partner to see me that way. To urn to be with me, to want to make love to me. To have passion.

Hello ladies, I just caught my husband masterbating to some nasty porn on cable in the middle of the night. I had just told him I wanted sex hours before. I didnt get any. He has been getting up at 4:30 in the morning to do his business . I have cried my eyes out. I dont have anyone to talk to because I'm to embrassed. I did confront him with it, he was very angry at first. He claims he has been doing it everyday for one year. Oh and by the way i am a very attractive lady 36, 10 years youger than him and we have only had sex 5 or 6 times this whole year. I am really wondering if he has gotten escort service or etc. ever. got phone records but its a business cell so there are a ton of phone numbers on it always. Am I over reacting to this? I dont think I am at all. We hve watched porn in the past together and he gets way larger if you know what I mean. I guess I dont satisfy him the way his nasty porn does. To me it is the same as cheating, I believe it is an affair of the mind and heart. Not to mention the selfish and self absorbed aspect of it . Well thanks for letting me vent. Any replies would be greatly appreciated ASAP. Thanks! KQ

Hello ladies, I just caught my husband masterbating to some nasty porn on cable in the middle of the night. I had just told him I wanted sex hours before. I didnt get any. He has been getting up at 4:30 in the morning to do his business . I have cried my eyes out. I dont have anyone to talk to because I'm to embrassed. I did confront him with it, he was very angry at first. He claims he has been doing it everyday for one year. Oh and by the way i am a very attractive lady 36, 10 years youger than him and we have only had sex 5 or 6 times this whole year. I am really wondering if he has gotten escort service or etc. ever. got phone records but its a business cell so there are a ton of phone numbers on it always. Am I over reacting to this? I dont think I am at all. We hve watched porn in the past together and he gets way larger if you know what I mean. I guess I dont satisfy him the way his nasty porn does. To me it is the same as cheating, I believe it is an affair of the mind and heart. Not to mention the selfish and self absorbed aspect of it . Well thanks for letting me vent. Any replies would be greatly appreciated ASAP. Thanks! KQ

kq wrote:

Hello ladies, I just caught my husband masterbating to some nasty porn on cable in the middle of the night. I had just told him I wanted sex hours before. I didnt get any. He has been getting up at 4:30 in the morning to do his business . I have cried my eyes out. I dont have anyone to talk to because I'm to embrassed. I did confront him with it, he was very angry at first. He claims he has been doing it everyday for one year. Oh and by the way i am a very attractive lady 36, 10 years youger than him and we have only had sex 5 or 6 times this whole year. I am really wondering if he has gotten escort service or etc. ever. got phone records but its a business cell so there are a ton of phone numbers on it always. Am I over reacting to this? I dont think I am at all. We hve watched porn in the past together and he gets way larger if you know what I mean. I guess I dont satisfy him the way his nasty porn does. To me it is the same as cheating, I believe it is an affair of the mind and heart. Not to mention the selfish and self absorbed aspect of it . Well thanks for letting me vent. Any replies would be greatly appreciated ASAP. Thanks! KQ

It is not cheating for a man to enjoy pornography. In general, it's just a stimulant to help a man masturbate, and the orgasm that you experience is totally different. I think it's because you're younger and very attractive that makes it hard for him; I myself have found it harder to feel comfortable around a beautiful woman. I think that you might want to talk to a couples therapist about this just because porn is not the issue here--it's a symptom of a deeper problem. But many couples have healthy relationships in which one partner enjoys porn for masturbation. Does that help?