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Users comments and reviews on article Overprotective parents by SirGan

This article should be well read over and over again by ALL parents, bearing in fact that not most parents aree overprotective.
Being a 15 year old teenager, I feel this way about my parents. They are TOO over protective! I can't go ANYWHERE by myself, and NOWHERE without them coming along with me.
Us youngsters need at least an hour a day of freedom; Especially when it comes to the school break.
Independance is what we need to focus on as we grow up. Our parents wont be there for us all our lives to cater for us, thus we need to learn and to experience to do it ourselves.
Now, I understand that they 'care' for us and 'fear' losing us or putting us into the risk of danger, but we need time for ourselves. Everything we do is written down on a page of our own individual history, and I'd like to have some fun with friends, by ourselves, in at least 3,000 of the billion pages I have.
Like birds, when they learn to take off and feed themselves, we need to be freed for a period of time as well, with our parents bearing in mind that we will return.
Now, please recomend my message; This message goes to ALL ages.
And I hope someone will change how parents protect their children for future hand. If not me, then you.

Thank you.

xx Nicole.

Hi =) I'm fifteen aswel, and i know exactly what it's like to have overprotective parents. Mine are the worst when it comes to that, trust me... When i go somewhere, they always bring me by car, and pick me up again. I can never stay anywhere later than 6oclock. I've never been to a party, and i only once (recently) slept over with a friend (a girl offcourse). Especially my mom is very protective. I can't even go to the store around the corner or to the movies by myself or with a friend. She'll always want to go with me. I hate her being like that, because, being overprotective kind of will work backwards: you'll want to do things, but you aren't allowed to do them, so you'll try to do them without them knowing you do. I hate lieing, but they don't leave me much of a choice. I do want to make one thing clear: I'm not a rebel, I'm a very good, smart girl. There's no reason to not trust my intentions. The worst thing is that she can't communicate. I can't tell her she is like that, because she would not believe she is all that bad. She thinks she does it for my own good, but please... you have to let teenagers expierence their youth, don't you? You have to let them learn from their mistakes... They won't learn anything by preventing them to make mistakes.

You both have absolutely no idea what overprotective parents are until you realise you're almost TWENTY and that most of the things you did growing up were watch television and go on the computer. Hell, you can count the amount of friends you have on one hand only and the only thing you want to do is GET OUT.

One of my parents seemed to think that the only thing to being a child is to study and do work around the house. I didn't think I'd still be here at this point because one of my parents ruined my chance of getting away from this misery. As I said you know nothing about overprotectiveness. I didn't have a game system because one of my parents thought it was only going to further waste my time and their money; even if I said I would buy it myself. Almost 20 and still here...The thought seems pathetic to me even. I spent most of my life being freakishly bored and not doing much. Reading is my escape, and once I was reading too much...Hopefully all that will change this year. Can you believe one of my parents are still trying to ruin that for me too? It won't happen though. Now I'm an adult and I'll be leaving this godforsaken house! Good luck with your situations though.

I totally agree that there needs to be something done about this overprotective parents epidemic!!!!! I don't think they these parents really understand how this can affect their children later in life. Case and point...me!

I'm 19 years old with THE most overprotective parents in the world. I can name several situations growing up where I could not partake in social events because my parents flat out said "NO", with giving a reasonable reason!!! I'm in my 2nd semester of college and still living at home. ugh! My first pick of the college I wanted to go to was shot-down by my parents because they thought it was too far away, when its only a state above where i live. WTF! It gets better, the college they wanted me to go to was the same distance apart, only a state below where I live because my 4.0 scholarship and pageant winning cousins goes there. They are pushing me to be just like them!!! It didn't matter what state the college is in, wherever my cousins go, my parents wanted to me go, which is a shitty reason to go in the first place. Anyway, the reason why the story gets better is because in order for me to live on campus for my 1st pick in college (which im not attending), my parents had to sign a consent form since I was under 19 @ the time. THEY REFUSED several times before finally caving in and signing the damn sheet. That was the worst feeling ever, because it made me feel like I have no choice in what I want to do in life!!!

I love my parents, but I wish they would trust me more and not treat me like a kid. I cannot wait til I move out!!!

I don't want to get into too much detail (but i think i am already lol) but I do have more stories that further support the overprotectivness in parents should be a sin! All throughout elem. school, I had to turn down several party invitations, sleepovers, and just plain hanging out with friends because my parents thought I was tooo young to go to those things even though there was ALWAYS a parent supervising those events. It totally pissed me off because growing up, kids younger than were able to go to those events, but I didn't understand why i couldn't.

Other things I was not allowed to do growing up includes participating in sports outside of school (even though my freshman year in high school i play tennis and softball and loved ever moment of it), not allowed to wear makeup til I am frkin 18 yrs old, hanging outside of school with friends unless it was school related ( i had to beg my parents to let me go out with my friends), etc.

Im the only girl in my family surrounded by my 2 bros who don't experience this at all. They are able to go out with friends and stuff. WTF!!! it sad because wen I am allowed out of my house, i either had to play mommy and bring my younger bro along which was a drag, or if i my bro isn't there my parents would, "check up on me" where i was to see if i was okay. BUT THEY'VE NEVER DONE THAT WITH MY BROTHERS. NEVER. my dad has followed me twice and even accused me of meeting somebody up with somebody where I was o_O...and i still have more stories. When I was a freshman in HS, i went to the mall to hangout with my friend just walking round, chillin. well my mom was suppose to only drop us off and we would call her when we were ready to leave, well when we got to the mall, she put the car in park...and kept it in park. she told us that we were too young to go in the mall by ourselves, so the only way we were still able to go if she was their...literally. all she did was follow us at a distance. it was terrible! i felt really bad cuz we were walkin fast just to ditch her! i love hangout with her but that was really unnecessary. i felt bad the whole entire time i was there.

One more story, every though i could go on forever on this topic. when i was a senior in HS, i worked at a bank and after 5pm everybody leaves the bank except mitch and I cuz we have the closing shift. so after 5pm there is only him and I, no manager or nothing to watch us. so every time my dad would come pick me up, he would always be mean muggin mitch cuz he doesn't trust him or agrees with the fact that its just me and him when everybody else left.

The worst part of it is, is on my social and dating life. my friends keep asking me to go to the club with em, but since im living at home, my parents don't like that kinda of behavior since guys are more than likely to be drunk and start hitting you. there are two great guys in my life i let slip away because i could never go out with them cuz they say no 99.9%
to anything social that is not school related. when i do get to go out, i cherish those times.

I know my life seems pretty pathetic by I try not looking at it that way. im very thankful for the friends i got to help me get through this madness. i give my parents no reason not to trust me. i don't drink, smoke, or do drugs, i get good grades, etc. i don't know whats wrong. it really irks me to see that the ppl would so smoke, drink, and do drugs gets to go and do whatever the hell they want while im confined in this home.

My parents (my mother for the most part) is not exactly overprotective. However, as my sister and I were growing up, she'd make comments like "Oh, you're listening to music, you must be becoming a teenager." Basically she scared us about growing up. My sister was someone able to somewhat deal with this and now has a boyfriend and group of friends even though her curfew is 9:00. I am a year older than my sister (I'm 1 and have not been able to deal with this quite as well. My mother wanted us to stay little kids forever. This lead me to develop an eating disorder (which no one ever knew about), lose nearly all the few friends I had (she made a huge deal about going out with friends and wouldn't let us out alone with friends to the mall until finally the day before my freshman year in high school my aunt just took me and my sister and we went on our own), so far I have never had a boyfriend or been kissed. My sister is my best friend and while this may not seem like such a bad thing, it is when she is the only person I hang out with outside of school. I have always been very shy which doesn't help, but I wish my mother had not been so controlling and against me growing up. It has to happen sometime...Anyway, now I feel like I wasted my entire high school experience spending Friday and Saturday nights watching TV, on the computer, or going to movies with my mom. I probably went out a total of five times with people other than my sister. However I am getting more and more excited about starting college in the fall since I am going to a school 2,000 miles away. I am hoping to get a fresh start. If there are kids in a position like I was I'd like to say to them that growing up isn't scary, never let parents hold you back and there is always a light at the end of the tunnel.